Oh good, I was afraid it was just me. lol
She makes so many good points that it would be impossible to list them all, but I appreciate that she continually reminds the reader that they have choices. I didn't find what she said bitter or negative, just to the point. At each step, she's right, we do have those 3 choices: bail out, put the R on hold, keep doing what we're doing.
And I needed the reminder that being in love with a separated versus the man still living with his W really isn't that different - they're BOTH STILL MARRIED. I think I was leaning very hard towards going NC until he moved out and/or could prove that the divorce papers were filed. Now I'm not so sure I wouldn't be better off wanting the divorce finalised before trying the R again - assuming either of us wants to at that point.
The book certainly provides lots of thought provoking material. Frankly, I wish I'd read it 18 months ago.